I’ve always been a fan of the sensual. Whatever has to do with a teasing of the senses I am automatically attracted to. Especially touch.
Touch effects me more than my other senses. I think that my love of the tactile has turned me into a very sexual person. Which in turn led me to the adult dating world. I’ve run the gamut of bars to singles sites and finally to adult dating. I found the latter had more people looking for the same thing I was: A friendly acceptance of the overtly sexual.
I will admit that it was daunting when I first signed on. I looked around, payed for a membership and sat back. For women the adult dating experience can be flattering, overwhelming and scary. In the first few days on an adult dating site a woman’s inbox (no pun intended) will be flooded with message after message. At first you’re thinking, “Wow. I’m hot. Look at how many guys want ME!” Then you start weeding your way through, thinking ‘how the hell am I going to answer all of these?’ Which leads you to realize, that of the 70 messages you received you really only want to respond to one or two.
The difference between men and women and they way we approach a casual fling blew my mind. At first I was angry, ‘Who are all these nut jobs on adult dating sites?” Most of the messages I received were riddled with poor grammar, punctuation and in sms code. Most of them contained only a line or two pertaining to when exactly we would meet and what sexual activity we would be doing.
I have been called a lot of things in my life and prude has never been one of them. Yet, I was horrified at how straight forward these guys were. I don’t need to be wined and dined, that’s not why I’m on an adult dating site. But there still has to be a certain amount of wooing.
After a few more months it really hit me. Ok, not all of these guys are nut jobs. They are just approaching adult dating as men: to the point and direct.
I think for everyone to get more out of adult dating both men and women have to look at how we are approaching it. Men need to take a step back and realize that they are writing to women and a little word foreplay is needed before the actual foreplay.
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Men are idiots, this trait is especially obvious when they are horny. Men on adult dating websites are especially horny.
ReplyDeleteThink about it in their mind, they are there to get laid, not start a relationship so they want to bang you and not think twice, most don't even care what your name is just that you put out, which is why they only speak in one or two sentences, if that.