SexInYourCity - Happy Thanksgiving

Hey everyone, It looks like it’s time to wish all of the Americans a Happy Thanksgiving. I’m trying to find a way to invite myself to a friend’s house for the weekend – an American friend. I want to eat turkey, mashed potatoes and apple pie until I need to take off my pants. Actually, I don’t usually even need an excuse to take off my pants – but it would be nice to have a reason anyway.

So if anyone out there thinks what their Thanksgiving is missing is a wild, most likely drunk, guaranteed to say the wrong thing, hitting on your uncle or even female family member woman at their party then hit me up. I’ll do my best to keep your party…umhh…let’s go with entertaining.

Weird Sex Fact of the Day

Most arousing time of day/season for a man: early morning/fall.

So that means that this morning there were raging hardons looking for some type of release all over the world. Or at least those places where it is now fall that is. Hopefully some of the ladies from SexInYourCity were able to help out with this!

SexInYourCity Meets Pick Up Artists

If you’re interested in what really goes on in the world of Pickup Artists take a look at the newest SexInYourCity article. I was able to not only interview Nick Savoy owner and operator of Love Systems, formerly Mystery Method Corp, publisher of the Magic Bullets Handbook and the Routines Manual, (phew) but I was able to attend one of their bootcamp seminars being held in my neck of the woods.

Very interesting stuff. But now of course all the guys around me are constantly quizzing me on pickup lines and other tips and tricks. Don’t worry guys I will be writing about them in the upcoming article! I’m curious if anyone else out there has had any experience with Pickup artists? Did you find them useful? Cool? Did you read a book, watch a video or even ever attend one of these seminars yourself?

SexINYourCity Updates

I can barely keep up with all the changes going on at SexInYourCity. Users now have the option to create their own backgrounds for their profiles! Case of blue balls? Then go for the blue. Feeling interested in a little lesbian action ladies? Go for the purple! If you’re not comfortable in English and prefer French, Dutch or Spanish just click on the language of your choice and the site instantly translates! Not bad, eh (that’s my Canadian site coming out)?

We’re still working on everyone’s feedback and every week you can find new options! The Sex Magazine is opened up for everyone to read too. Also if you’re into following me on Twitter or Facebook the links are on the magazine and will take you directly there. We’re still getting a great influx of people to the site which is always good to see too.

On a completely unrelated note – for the WOMEN out there reading this. I was having a conversation with some girlfriends and it got onto the topic of porn. Many an argument ensued over what women look for in porn. So for the women let me know what YOU look for in your pornography! Talk to everyone soon!

Happy Halloween From SexInYourCity

Halloween weekend. The one time a year that women can unleash their inner slutty nurse…or slutty fairy or slutty angel or just plain slut without being judged. The only raised eyebrows are by other women silently wishing THEY had chosen that outfit.

Who knew that so many women had a burning desire to be so damn slutty. Oh right. That's right - we here at SexInYourCity do. ;)

SexInYourCity Learns to Pick Up!

I am heading to the Pickup Artist bootcamp seminar tomorrow. I can’t wait to see and hear what really goes on at these things! Part of me is fascinated with the whole thing and the other part is a little nervous. Do these guys really know ALL about the female psychology? Do they know more about me than…well, than me? Will they read and sum me up the moment I walk in? And will their tricks help on an adult dating site?

I’m hoping to walk out of there with a new appreciation for men and the trials they go through when approaching and picking up woman. And of course to have a few hints and techniques to share with our SexInYourCity members. Either way this should shape up to be a very interesting and eye opening weekend. I’m hoping they are as honest and forthright even though there will be a woman in the audience.

Check out the magazine next week. I’ll have an article detailing my experience. I also have an interview with the head of the company that will be posted then. Let me know what you guys think or even better, if any of you have been to one of these seminars let me know about your experience!

SexInYourCity - Going Down?

Alright guys, it’s finally up. If you have ever had questions about how to start when you’re going down – then SexInYourCity has it. Lots of member comments already with everyone sharing their tips and tricks on the best techniques! You really can’t ask for much more than that!

SexInYourCity - Happy Gobble Gobble

On behalf of SexInYourCity - I would like to wish all the Canadians out there a very Happy Thanksgiving. I hope everyone ate themselves into a food coma (as I did).

SexInYourCity Member Interview

We just added a new feature to the site. We will now have monthly member Interviews! I think this will be a great way to get to know some of the amazing members we have on SexInYourCity. First up we have Johnniek4u. I have to say I was really impressed with his honesty when answering the questions. And by the looks of the comments I wasn’t the only one. I’m hoping it’s setting the standard for everyone else out there!

Next month we have one of our most popular members BrookRiv answering the questions! It’s going to be a hot one so make sure you check it out.

SexInYourCity Updates

I can’t believe we are already well on our way into fall. There are quite a few interesting things coming up with SexInYourCity. We are revealing new functions on the site quite often with the help of our member’s suggestions. Stay tuned….!

SexInYourCity Hotty of the Day! HussyNicole

HussyNicole

Well here is our latest hotty of the Day....or the week. Whatever! Umhh...wow. Ok, she has just signed up and is already getting into the swing of things over here at SexInYourCity. She’s from Seattle, Washington and looking to hook up soon on this adult dating site! So if you are in the Washington area make sure to contact her!

She’s looking for a gentleman who is intuitive, humorous and smart. She’s not to into %$^&ing for looks. But she is into guys who are safe and sweet and thrill seekers. Hmm…my kind of girl. Now if only she swung that way. ;)

I’ve really started to notice the buildup of activity on adult dating sites. Especially with SexInYourCity. I always thought it would be the busiest in the summer – since that’s when hormones and short skirts and bare skin is flying around. But as we are settling into fall there seems to be more members and more interaction than even the last months. Maybe we’re all already planning for the hibernating months to come? It’s definitely harder to meet someone when it’s cold out and we’re holed up at home watching porn…oops..I mean movies than it is when we’re outside.

Until I stumble up on the next hotty!

SexInYourCity Hotty!!

Oh my god. Came across her picture and am BLOWN away!! Not to mention that she is a complete sports lover - volleyball and basketball! She could probably kick your ass! It does seem she is more into girls at the moment...but hey, who knows! Maybe I’ll try my luck ;)

SexInYourCity is really building up an amazing community. I’m proud to call it home at the moment. More and more women are flocking here, which is always a good sign. The magazine is building up momentum with more members requesting articles and information on all things kinky. I’m always looking for feedback for what will make this site the best out there. I want us to take over and put ALL other sites to shame!

I think we’re almost there. Would love feedback from all you guys reading this site. If you have any ideas or requests I am open eyes, ears…thighs…whatever. Can’t wait to hear from you!

This will be the ABSOLUTE BEST adult dating site out there with your help. Stay tuned to the website to watch for more updates and changes as the time goes by.
I’ll be waiting anxiously for those messages from you! Bye for now.

SexInYourCity Equal Opportunity

The problem with imagining everyone that you run into and their sex life is that there are some better you should never ever have to think of naked.

But I do it a lot. As you can see here. Any words of advice on how to break this habit are more than welcome. There are only so many times while out in public that you can cover your eyes and scream. Size doesn’t matter. Sex. From 18 to senior, I’m still thinking of it. Well, at least I can put it to use writing articles.

SexInYourCity Threesomes

Ever wondered what the protocol of a menage a trois is? It can be difficult trying to figure out the proper balance where everyone is having an amazing time. While the dynamics of your partners is usually the most important factor, playing by a few simple rules can help it move along without any hiccups. Check out the latest article at SexInYourCity for a few pointers.

SexInYourCity Outcome

Well that's it, we now know the winner!

SexInYourCity Poll

It’s interesting to see what people are voting for. And I am curious about the guy/girl who voted for a couple of times a day! Who has that type of time…and energy for that matter. They must be a member of SexInYourCity! ;0

SexInYourCity Is Still Growing

This summer has flown by. I can't believe only a few short weeks and all those short skirts and bikinis will be put away until next season. I feel really grateful to be still working with SexInYourCity. Getting to watch the site grow, meeting members and taking care of the magazine has been quite the experience. Unfortunately it's not beneficial to my adult dating life.

While I've managed to have a few memorable flings - my sex life for the most part has dwindled to an unacceptable level. That's it. I need to find a late night booty call friend. Someone who doesn't care if I call once a week or once every few months.

Yes...that's exactly what I have to find. My own little SexInYourCity friend.

Have a SexInYourCity weekend!!

Hey everyone,

I am running off for the weekend. Seriously it's time to relax with a drink and keep my fingers crossed that I will be walking funny come Monday!

Have a great weekend!

SexInYourCity is taking up my time ;)

I know I haven't written for awhile but I have been so busy with the new SexInYourCity magazine that it has been hard to take care of both. Plus Sexinyourcity has had a makeover and is looking very very sexy. We're trying to get lots of feedback from our members - so check it out and let us know what you think of the newly designed site. Some of our best designers worked on it.

And hey, while you're there try checking out the magazine! I know, I know...pure self promotion!

Not SexInYourCity "WOOF WOOF!"

I don’t mind using my embarrassment for your amusement. As with all things in life there are the good and the bad. Yes, this is especially true with an adult dating site.

I had been messaging back and forth a couple of times with this guy. Let’s call him Jack. I didn’t meet him on Sexinyourcity but another adult dating site which shall remain nameless. Things were going well. I was looking for more of a part time lover than one night slam and bam. He was interesting, sarcastic and intelligent. Perfect for that position (and hopefully others).

I’m not big on the telephone. I really would prefer to write or meet in person rather than make awkward small talk. So we planned a date to meet for a quick drink.

We met for about 30 minutes and Jack maintained his adult dating email persona perfectly. I couldn’t wait to get into his pants. About a week later we planned a night of drinks at his house – in other words it was time to get naked.

He greeted me at the door, looking like his GQ self. He took my jacket and handed me a glass of wine. He decided to give me a tour of his place. Now here’s where things took a very bizarre turn.

We walked past all of the rooms to the one at the end of the hall. He opened the door and ushered me through. The room was empty except for a giant cage in the corner, dog bowls and a few grooming brushes on the wall.

Shit’s getting freaky. “That must be some huge dog you have.”

“I don’t have a dog.”

I looked at Jack crossing my fingers for a smile. Nope nothing. Instead I got an eyebrow raise.

You have to be kidding me.

The next 10 minutes were spent with Jack extolling the virtues of BDSM. I downed my wine. I am up for a lot of things. And I mean a lot. But slurping water from a dog bowl while being called Fido was not one of them. At least not tonight.

Hey, freakier the better. But not once in our emails or meeting did he mention this personal fetish of his. And why is he springing this on me now? If you can’t be honest on an adult dating site about your sexual proclivities then you shouldn’t be on one.

Oh yah, and if you did fail to mention it on the adult site, keep the kink hidden until your date has had time to finish at least one glass of wine.

Getting Some Adult Dating Action

So, you’ve scaled the adult dating profile wall. Your messaging charisma has charmed a woman enough to want to meet you, now just to charm those pants off her.

Let’s say you have already met, already had your first adult date. Maybe it was a quick coffee. Maybe a drunken grope in a bar. She’s coming over. Be it a hotel, your house or studio apartment furnished with your parents 60’s cast offs - there are preparations in order. No matter how much you think it’s in the bag it can all go terribly wrong.

First things first: Clean. Women see more details than men do. And they affect us, even us women from an adult dating site. So clean and when you think you’re finished, clean again. The beer your frat buddy Steve spilt that you haven’t gotten around to cleaning up? Wash it. Mutant dust bunnies so big they look like they are planning a coup? Vacuum.

Have something to offer her to drink. If you have no clue what she drinks go for bottled water, the ever popular energy drink (could also pay off) or red wine.

Turn off the TV! It’s an evil life sucking pit. Music. Music. Music.

If she actually has time to get in the door before the two of you are dry humping then offer to take her coat. Hang it up – do not toss it on the bed. It won’t be amusing to her later on to realize her coat now comes complete with love juices also tossed by you.

Condoms. Keep them handy and separated. It’s oddly not flattering to see a guy grab his condoms in one endless scroll. The girl will end up feeling like she is at the circus receiving one ticket out of the thousands that will be given out.

Members of adult dating sites often have a need for discretion. Have a fresh towel ready. She may need a quick shower before heading home. You wouldn’t want to give her the one you used to mop up Steve’s beer either.

Sexinyourcity Poll Outcome

I have to say I am more than a little surprised at the outcome of the poll. Ok, so a mere 20 people took time out of their busy Twitter schedules to vote, but it’s still masturbation by a landslide!

· Oral sex: 6
· Intercourse: 2
· Masturbation: 12

I can’t believe how many people are ready to give up their personal play date time. Either these people are getting as much slap and tickle as they can possibly stand or….Well I don’t really know what the other reason would be. …Can anyone explain this to me in terms that someone who has had dry spells could understand??

Sexinyourcity First Adult Date

Ok. I am veering off the path of ‘how to’ adult dating articles and leaning into something a little more personal. I’ve experienced adult dating moments both good and bad. There is one that sticks in my mind to this day.

If there was a king of adult dating. A Don Juan of the adult dating world. Someone who knew the ins and outs and could have me eating out of the palm of their hand. Well, I had the chance to meet him.

It was my first meeting with someone from Sexinyourcity the adult dating site. I had been perusing the site for awhile with a few interesting prospects. But I hadn’t taken a leap further than a little chatting on bored, wine induced Sunday nights.

Enter Steve. I had chatted with him a bit before. He had asked me to meet but I wasn’t that comfortable yet. Horny yes. But comfortable no.

One particular night he logged on, quickly asked about grabbing a drink or going for a walk. I hesitated. His response was pretty much, “Alright. It’s been cool getting to know you but I’m more looking for someone that is up for actually meeting in person.”

Hmmm…interesting. Did he just passive aggressively dare me?

“Public place. Martini’s. Your call where. I promise I won’t let you seduce me.”

He’s getting more interesting. Definitely a dare. Plus, my wine was worryingly low.

Now or never. The lounge and time were decided. A quick, “I’ll be in a red dress.”

We met at the lounge. As per my usual style I was there earlier. I really didn’t want to be the one walking in blind, trying to find my adult date set up. I would rather sit back and watch as someone else awkwardly looked around.

Names were exchanged. Nice adult dating specimen, I thought. He sat down across from me, leaned back and ordered a drink. Conversation was surprisingly easy. Though, that could very well have been the wine earlier.

Now for a good 20 minutes he made absolutely no sexual overtones. I can not stress how important that was. Nor did he touch me in anyway for about 15 minutes. Again, very important. The touching started slowly. A hand on the arm to make a point. Then on the knee. Then higher up on the thigh when we laughed at something.

A man and woman with a little lubrication of the alcohol sort will always fall back on talking about sex. This just happens. Of course it’s going to happen with adult dating people. Steve knew this. But instead of lunging at me like a Chihuahua in heat he let me become comfortable. There was no smell of desperation in the air as there can often be with adult dating guys. So instead of busying myself fending him off I could focus on how badly I want his good parts in my mouth.

Right. Have to keep this PG-13.
We could barely wait to leave. Frantic walk back to his place which was constantly interrupted by hands and mouths. His apartment door finally slammed behind us. And that was it.

Crazy, wild, jackrabbit – that was it.

And the moral of this adult dating story was…?

Adult Dating - Getting Started

Adult Dating Profiles

Read any posts out there about adult dating and the first thing you see is the echo of ‘girls never write to me!”

Guys, this isn’t brain surgery. And I really want to make this work for you. In theory adult dating is an amazing way to get a group of over and under sexed people together. But it seems to be in the approach where it gets all muddled.

First off – your adult dating profile. Think of it as being in a bar and a woman catches your eye. Do you want her to see someone interesting and pants droppable or do you want to seem like the creepy little lurker jacking himself off in the corner?

Let’s start with pictures. A picture says a thousand words. What words do you want to her to think of?

Keep the one eyed bandit clothed in pictures. Really. Truly. Please. Keep Mr. Winkles under wrap. Yes, it’s an adult dating site. With adult content. But when I’m going through someone’s pictures and I stumble onto a penis it’s akin to a drive-by flashing. You may as well add a comb over, black socks and trench coat and call it a day.

Keep your pictures friendly. Smiling is good. You with a group of friends is good and also shows that you aren’t completely socially inept. Any funky travel pics can be a good opener later on. Plus it looks like you have more interests than only trying to pick up on adult dating sites.

If for some reason you have a Sears portrait file it away with ‘pics of my blue veined piccolo’ and never ever speak of it again.

Ever.

After you have wowed her with your pictures it doesn’t hurt to write a little something. It does not have to be a 10 page character study on your lifelong dreams. But a paragraph or two will make you seem a little more human.

Leave the extremely pornographic for later. She gets it. She knows why you’re on an adult dating site. But dude seriously, have a little dignity. We can sniff out desperation from miles away.

Adult Dating - What I've Learned

I’ve always been a fan of the sensual. Whatever has to do with a teasing of the senses I am automatically attracted to. Especially touch.

Touch effects me more than my other senses. I think that my love of the tactile has turned me into a very sexual person. Which in turn led me to the adult dating world. I’ve run the gamut of bars to singles sites and finally to adult dating. I found the latter had more people looking for the same thing I was: A friendly acceptance of the overtly sexual.

I will admit that it was daunting when I first signed on. I looked around, payed for a membership and sat back. For women the adult dating experience can be flattering, overwhelming and scary. In the first few days on an adult dating site a woman’s inbox (no pun intended) will be flooded with message after message. At first you’re thinking, “Wow. I’m hot. Look at how many guys want ME!” Then you start weeding your way through, thinking ‘how the hell am I going to answer all of these?’ Which leads you to realize, that of the 70 messages you received you really only want to respond to one or two.

The difference between men and women and they way we approach a casual fling blew my mind. At first I was angry, ‘Who are all these nut jobs on adult dating sites?” Most of the messages I received were riddled with poor grammar, punctuation and in sms code. Most of them contained only a line or two pertaining to when exactly we would meet and what sexual activity we would be doing.

I have been called a lot of things in my life and prude has never been one of them. Yet, I was horrified at how straight forward these guys were. I don’t need to be wined and dined, that’s not why I’m on an adult dating site. But there still has to be a certain amount of wooing.

After a few more months it really hit me. Ok, not all of these guys are nut jobs. They are just approaching adult dating as men: to the point and direct.

I think for everyone to get more out of adult dating both men and women have to look at how we are approaching it. Men need to take a step back and realize that they are writing to women and a little word foreplay is needed before the actual foreplay.

Adult Dating - About Sexinyourcity

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